Searching is like voting, you can't complain about the outcome unless you do it!
So frequently I hear people say the following:
"I tried online dating, and no one good wrote me, so I removed my profile after three weeks."
Way to put yourself out there.
Try to think about this a bit differently. Let's say that I am interested in finding a new job. So, I completely update my resume and display it on any one of the huge, well-known online job sites. Three weeks go by. The only responses that I get are from companies that want me to do 100% commission, cold-calling sales jobs when my resume clearly states an interest in working with established customers. That wasn't the type of work I wanted, so why did they even bother?
Well, actually, as a sales professional, I have an answer to that question:
1. I never specifically said that I did NOT want a commission-based job. I mean, some cold-calling jobs have an amazing financial upside. Perhaps they were hoping that I was motivated by the money.
2. The turnover in those types of jobs is very high, so they are probably always looking for new sales associates.
3. They read enough of my resume to see the word "Sales"
4. It is really easy to contact anyone and everyone.
Based on my results from this three week trial, I can conclude that posting a resume on a big career website is hopeless because I did not find anything that I wanted. I'm not going to use resume sites anymore. I'll just find a new job if a good one comes my way.
So, do you see the parallels here? It's easy to become frustrated when things do not go as smoothly as we hope. And whether it is job hunting or online dating, you're going to hear from people that you do not desire because contacting you online is very easy. However, if you're old enough to read my blog you probably know that life is full of challenges and unpredictability. The goal is to work on those things in which we do have control.
Now, looking at these above setbacks as opportunities, here are some suggestions:
1. Be proactive about searching. Job postings and dating profiles are added, updated, and removed constantly. Running a daily query of the ones that interest you will still give you thousands of options. In online dating, I advise doing extremely meticulous searches so that you can see all those eligible with the traits that you desire.
2. Target better. I mentioned in my job hunting example that my resume mentioned my interest in account management role. I could go a step further, BE MORE SPECIFIC and mention that I am interested in account management, particularly in the healthcare industry. This is also applicable to dating profiles.
3. Tailor each email communication as though it were a phone conversation. If "Hey, how are you doing? I really like your profile, give me a shout!" is not what you'd say over the phone, why would you make that your first impression over email? The former can also be said for cover letters.
I know that some of these suggestions might be no-brainers, but sometimes in the frenzy of it all it is nice to be reminded.
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